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10 Things Every Twenty-Something Should Remember

9 Apr 2016
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I tried to name this '10 Things you need to remember when you're a twenty-something running around like a lost puppy searching for food, money, a purpose and the meaning of life...' but it was a couple of characters too long so I had to cut it down.

I'm pretty sure that everyone out of their twenties will be sighing and frowning when I say this, but it turns out that being twenty-something is kind of hard. I mean sure, it's a whirlwind of meeting new people, being carefree, enjoying the student life, lacking responsibility and just generally having a lot more freedom in life than you will in the future, but it's also stressful and it really does test you. One minute you can feel on top of the world and the next minute you feel like you'll never get to where you want to be in life, or be who you want to be. I also think that the pressure on young people these days is absolutely ridiculous and something needs to be done about that, but that's a rant for another day...

This little list is for those of you who don't really know what you're doing in life and a little reminder that, well, we're all in the same boat, even if it doesn't always seem like it.

1. Learning to be patient is the best thing you can do

I'm sure we all have our own opinions on the key to happiness, but for me, it's patience. It's easy to look at people who seem to have their life together and torture yourself because you haven't got to that place yet. Why not just enjoy where you are at the moment? Why not just trust that things will work out? They do say that good things come to those who wait and although sometimes I feel like seriously challenging whoever came up with that, it is probably true.

2. Making mistakes is actually good for you

So what if you picked the wrong guy? So what if you didn't choose the right career first time round? So what if you chose the strawberry flavour but the chocolate was better (fyi chocolate is always better)? Anyone who doesn't make mistakes is boring. Just plain old boring.

3. Teeny tiny achievements still count

Even finishing one out of ten tasks on your to-do list, it's still a completed task and it's still an achievement! Ok maybe you should try to manage at least 50% of that list but still, don't underestimate the little accomplishments of your day and your life so far. Achievements don't have to mean that you were Captain of the Hockey team at University, or that you won a national poetry competition in Year 12, or that you've managed to nab a job by the end of your degree.

4. Everyone is working their way along their own path

Are all paths the same length? No. Are all paths pointed in the same direction? No. I really like this analogy because comparison really is the thief of joy (I also love a good inspirational quote) and twenty-somethings know this all too well. Learn to be happy for other's achievements and let them motivate you, not put you down.

5. See everything as an experience and a story to tell

Let's face it, nobody doesn't struggle at life. It just is a struggle. Nothing is ever simple. Nobody sails on through and we are always faced with obstacles. Just take it as it comes and see the setbacks and the tough days as an experience. Like for example, when I moved into my French apartment and there was no electricity or furniture. It was crap at the time but now it's just hilarious and makes me sound vaguely interesting when I tell people the story.

6. Try as many new things as possible

Say YES to everything. Within reason.

7. Rejection is a natural part of life

CRINGE! But really, it probably happens to every single one of us every single day. For example, my dog ignored me earlier today because my Mum was around and she loves her more. Learn to move on from it, get back up and try again.

8. You should push yourself out of your comfort zone every single day

Don't let your future self be annoyed at your present self for not taking an opportunity, not making the call, or not taking the leap. This can range from bungee jumping in New Zealand to simply picking up the phone and contacting the employer you've always wanted to work for.

9. Loving yourself will be slow but you will get there eventually

This is like saying 'ha, keep trying, you'll win eventually', but seriously, you will. Even the people who you think are ultra confident, ultra good-looking and have an ultra bubbly personality (damn them all), have their imperfections and their struggles.

10. Forget about negative influences

Don't hang on to people who only bring negativity into your life but do hold on to those who will always stick around. Go by the mantra of 'is it really worth it?'

What do/did you find the toughest thing about being a twenty-something? Have you got any tips?


2 comments on "10 Things Every Twenty-Something Should Remember"
  1. Love this and completely agree - being in your twenties can be so daunting and everyone else seems so much more on top of things so it's definitely important to remember that small achievements all count and yes to trying new things!
    Amy xx
    Call Me Amy

  2. Thankyou for this. I'm just about to turn 21 & finish my degree. Sat here wondering what the hell is going to happen with my life. I still feel like I'm 16. It's a bit daunting wondering how the hell your live is gonna come together. But I'm gonna embrace it, enjoy my twenties. Nice advice :)


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